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Here’s the article title and subtitle:

“The man who wants to reshape your private parts
David Matlock, aka, Dr. Sex, can “fix” you down there with his pioneering gynaecological techniques. But did you know it needed improving?“

I’m going to rant concisely (Did I write that? concise ranting??) so that this newsletter doesn’t become my second book.  But this is too insane, ridiculous and absurd for me not to address.  And it hurts my heart to think of the women who will fall prey to this nonsense.

This falls under my category of “Leave my body alone!!!”

Who the hell decided that there was anything wrong with the appearance of a woman’s labia?  This is a serious question.  Apparently this enterprising doctor did and knowing that he could easily pander to the multitude of self-esteem deprived and negative self-image women who feel that almost everything about their appearances isn’t good enough already, he’s guaranteeing that the “almost everything” part now becomes everything.

It incenses me when I read these types of things.  Here’s a bit in particular that really bothered me:

“Sexual gratification for women is directly related to muscles and tightness. Kegel,” he says, referring to pelvic-floor exercises, “we all know Kegel doesn’t work. So we ask, ‘How tight do you wanna be?’ What they say is, ‘We want to be as tight as we were when we were 18, before we had children.’ That’s what they want and that’s what they get.” In fact, there are no studies to prove that the diameter of a woman’s vagina is the determining factor inher sexual pleasure.”  (Bold is my emphasis).

So given that there are no studies to support this idea that vaginal tightness has anything to do with a woman’s sexual pleasure, how can he make these ridiculous statements and stand upon them as terra firma to what will undoubtedly make him a rich man and impoverish the self-image of women who succumb to the mastery of marketing.

I remember an expression that goes something like, “believe none of what you hear and only half of what you see.”  When most people read things in newspapers, reputable magazines and medical publications, they tend to accept what they are reading as truth and fact.  I personally trust none of it, and I implore you to question as well.

We women are being bombarded by the media, most of the mainstream medical profession and the pharmaceutical industry with messages that tell us that our bodies are not good enough, therefore neither are we.  But here, take this pill, have this surgery, and you’ll be fixed.  You’ll be beautiful, you’ll be loved.

okay, okay, I’m not ranting concisely.

The idea of making a woman’s labia conform to whose idea anyway of what a labia should look like is absurd.  So let me use an absurd example that I think will convey my viewpoint perfectly.

Imagine a bunch of flowers all sitting around talking.  I frequently use the analogy that women are all flowers, so this is perfect, since flower petals are a great metaphor for labia.

So the rose looks over at the sunflower and says, “God, your petals are so beautiful.  I wish mine looked liked yours.”  And the sunflower says to the tulip, “But I wish mine looked like yours.”  Completely ridiculous right??? Well, so is the idea that women need to have their labia look a certain way.  Women may sit around and say to one another, “I wish my boobs were bigger,” or “I wish I had smaller hips,” but I can guarantee you that none of us reading this have ever said to a girlfriend, “I don’t like the way my labia look.  I think I’m going to get them fixed.”

And how could anyone ever say a rose petal is more beautiful than a sunflower’s or a tulip’s.  They, and we, are all different, and equally as beautiful.

And to further support how absurd this is, for you guys reading this I’m sure you’ll concur with this quote from the article by a Beverly Hills plastic surgeon:

“If someone has a functional problem with their vagina, then they should have reconstructive surgery,” he says. “But who can say what a vagina should look like? I am 66 years old. I have never, in all my life, ever heard a man say,’I saw this woman, she had an ugly vagina.’ Never. To tell someone otherwise is to promote body dysmorphia. What is the mentality of this person? It’s not progressive, it’s entrepreneurial. It’s about money. And doctors should never be about the money.”

Try telling that last sentence to the pharmaceutical industry.  Sorry, that’s a different rant.

God bless this guy for disagreeing with his colleague.  In Beverly Hills that’s no small feat in the plastic surgery capital of the world.  Yet the doctor advocating this will make a fortune giving women what they think they need, because someone like him can spin it in such a way that they will believe that if they fix their vaginas, they’ll finally be okay.

Ladies, doesn’t this make you sad?  Men, I’ll bet this surprises and saddens you.

I’d like to take a moment more in this seemingly endless newsletter to share some real beauty about women’s bodies, our labia and vulva in particular.  Also known as the Yoni, in Sanskrit.  Rufus Camphausen, author of “The Yoni, Sacred Symbol of Female Creative Power,” and his wife, Christina Camphausen, author of “Yoni Portraits“ have two amazing books that honor the beauty of the female vulva, of which the labia are a part.

Yoni Portraits in particular is a masterpiece and someone should get a copy to this jerk (pardon my judgment, it just slipped out).  It consists of beautiful drawings of approximately 150 yonis (vulvas) drawn over 16 years.  These beautiful drawing are done from actual photographs submitted by real women of their yonis.  The drawings are only of the Yoni, not the woman, and they are exquisite.  Like a collection of flowers.  I think you men in particular would find this book quite powerful.  Many of you are used to pornographic images of the vulva, and these are quite beautiful, real, visceral and evocative in a way I’m quite certain you may never have experienced.

Ladies, it will just reaffirm what I’m always telling you, that we are exquisitely beautiful in all ways and in all our forms.

Click on the links above or below to view the book.  This book is a true work of he(art).

If you read the article there’s more to it, in particular G-shots.  But I think that’s another rant.  I think you have more than enough to ponder, so I’ll leave you here.

Ladies, celebrate your individual and unquestionable beauty, as you are in your raw, natural state.  And men, do the same.  It will have unimaginably positive effects on the women in your life.

And men, let me hear from you.

YONI PORTRAITS
By Christina Camphausen